love and marriage is not

like accounting, or about keeping score, or asserting who loves who more, or claiming who has sacrificed more. none of those. when either or both parties to the relationship/marriage start to quibble in such a manner, it is the beginning of their end.

付出多少 是不是就要拿回多少?
在感情的世界里 多少算多? 多少算少?
我对你好 是不是要你也对我好?
在感情的天平上 什么算好? 什么算不好?

我们一路跟时间赛跑 我们一直和未来计较
跟往事的是是非非 对对错错 苦苦煎熬
哪一天我们才能清楚知道 我们曾在同一个地方停靠
将往事的是是非非 对对错错 抛在脑后 都抛在脑后!

--伍思凯, "我们之间"

rough translation:
when one gives, should the same amount be taken in return?
in terms of feelings, what is a lot? what is a little?
am I good to you, because I want you to be good to me too?
if feelings were measured on a scale,
what is good? what is not good?

we've been racing against time all this while
we've been quibbling about the future all this while
plus our past rights and wrongs, and trials and tribulations
when will we realize that we had been docking at the same port
that we should leave our past rights and wrongs,
and trials and tribulations
behind!